The following are resources to which I regularly refer. These are not all the resources I refer to and do not represent endorsements of all the authors say.


  • Codependent No More & Beyond Codependency by Melody Beattie (2001)
  • Codependent No More : How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie (1986)
  • Healing the Shame that Binds You by John Bradshaw (2005)
  • Out of the Shadows: Understand Sex Addiction (2001) & In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior (2007) by Patrick Carnes
  • Divine Therapy and Addiction: Centering Prayer and The Twelve Steps by Thomas Keating (2011)
  • Healing Wounds of Sexual Addiction by Mark Laaser, Gary Smalley and Patrick Carnes (2004)
  • Addiction and Grace: Love and Spirituality in the Healing of Addictions by Gerald May (2007)
  • Breathing Under Water: Spirituality and the Twelve Steps by Richard Rohr (2011)
  • Adult Children of Alcoholics by Janet Woititz (1990)

ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder)

  • Delivered from Distraction: Getting the Most out of Life with Attention Deficit Disorder by Edward Hallowell and John Ratey (2005)
  • Healing ADD Revised Edition: The breakthrough Program That Allows You to See and Heal the 7 Types of ADD by Daniel Amen (2013)
  • You Mean I’m Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy? The Classic Self-Help Book for Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder by Kate Kelly and Peggy Ramundo (2006).

Dr. Daniel Amen’s research comes from over 86,000 SPECT brain imagining scans, identifying seven different types of ADD. Below is a link for self test based on his research. I do not have any affiliation with his materials or clinics.


Attachment Style Quiz

Research has identified 4 attachment styles. This can be helpful to understand oneself and relational challenges. Dr. Diane Poole Heller researches and trains therapists in an attachment based therapy and has made a research based attachment style quiz on her website.

Christian Spirituality

  • Self Care: A Theology of Personal Empowerment & Spiritual Healing by Ray Anderson (1989)
  • The Gift of Being Yourself: The Sacred Call to Self Discovery by David Benner (2004)
  • The Human Condition: Contemplation and Transformation by Thomas Keating (1999)
  • The Inner Voice of Love (1999) and Here and Now (2006) by Henri Nouwen
  • How to Be An Adult: A Handbook for Psychological and Spiritual Integration by David Richo (1991)
  • Falling Upward: A Spirituality for the Two Halves of Life by Richard Rohr (2011)
  • What the Mystics Know by Richard Rohr (2015)
  • A Season for the Spirit: Readings for the Days of Lent by Martin Smith (2004)

Couples and Relationships

  • The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary Chapman (2004)
  • Not “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity by Shirley Glass (2004)
  • The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman (2000)
  • When Men Batter Women by Neil Jacobson and John Gottman (2007)
  • Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Susan Johnson (2008)
  • How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It by Patricia Love and Steven Stosny (2008)
  • How to Be an Adult in Relationships by David Richo (2000)
  • You Are The One You’ve Been Waiting for by Richard Schwartz (2006) – Can be ordered at Internal Family Systems website, click on IFS Store
  • You Don’t Have to Take It Anymore: Turn your resentful, angry, or emotionally abusive relationship into a compassionate, loving one by Steven Stosny (2006)

Dating and Mate Selection

  • Falling in Love for all the Right Reasons: How to find your soul mate by Dr. Neil Clark Warren (2005)
  • Finding the Love of your Life: Ten principles for choosing the right marriage partner by Dr. Neil Clark Warren (1992)

Grief and Loss

  • How to Survive the Loss of a Love by Harold Bloomfield, Melba Colgrove, and Peter McWilliams (1976)
  • A Grace Disguised: how the soul grows through loss by Jerry Sittser (1995) Christian perspective
  • Necessary Losses by Judith Viorst (1986)

Health and Wellness

  • Use Your Brain to Change Your Age by Daniel Amen (2012)
  • The Gift of Fear and Other Survival Signals that Protect us from Violence by Gavin DeBecker (1997)
  • Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation by Daniel Siegal (2010)


  • A Good Enough Parent: A Book on Child-Rearing by Bruno Bettelheim (1987)
  • The Irreducible Needs of Children: What Every Child Must Have to Grow, Learn, and Flourish by Berry Brazelton & Stanley Greenspan (2000)
  • Growing Up Again: Parenting Ourselves, Parenting Our Children by Jen Clarke & Connie Dawson (1989)
  • Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child: The Heart of Parenting by John Gottman, Joan Declaire, and Daniel Goleman (1998)
  • Parenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children by Daniel Siegal and Mary Hartzell (2004)

Psychology and Relationships

  • The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron (1997) – She also has a website with a self assessment for sensitivity
  • Please Understand Me: Character & Temperament Types (Myers-Briggs) by David Keirsey and Marilyn Bates (1978)
  • New Light on Depression: Help, Hope, & Answers for the Depressed & Those Who Love Them by David Biebel & Harold Koenig (2004)
  • Too Loud Too Bright Too Fast Too Tight: What to do if you are sensory defensive in an overstimulating world by Sharon Heller (2002)
  • The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships by Harriet Lerner (1985)
  • Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder by Paul Mason & Randi Kreger (2010)
  • The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self, Revised Edition by Alice Miller (1996, original 1980)
  • The Wizard of Oz and other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family by Eleanor Payson (2002)
  • The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values & Spiritual Growth (1972)
  • People of the Lie: The Hope for Healing Human Evil (1998) by Scott Peck
  • The New Peoplemaking by Virginia Satir (1988, original 1972)


  • Choosing to Live: How to Defeat Suicide Through Cognitive Therapy by Thomas Ellis and Cory Newman (1996)

Trauma and Abuse

  • The Wounded Heart: Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse by Dan Allender (1990), Christian perspective
  • Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Peter Levine (1997) Healing Trauma: A Pioneering Program for Restoring the Wisdom of Your Body by Peter Levine (2008)
  • Trauma & Resilience: A Handbook Eds. Frauke & Charlie Schaefer, (2012), Christian perspective.


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